The Power of Affirmation

I sat in a small circle with four young adults and thought, what have I gotten myself into? Our assignment was to speak words of life into each other. We were part of a group of pastors and pastoral interns who had just spent two and a half incredibly inspiring days together working on developing our denominational internship program. 

        Before heading home, we were asked to get into small groups and affirm each other by sharing the good things we see in each other.  In particular we were asked to affirm God’s calling. When I realized I was sitting among four young adults, I almost went to be part of a group of my peers. I’m so glad I didn’t.

We started with a young man (in his mid 20s) who said, “This is going to be awkward.” But after the four of us told him what we saw God doing in his life, and how he had positively impacted each of our lives he said any awkward feelings he felt were replaced with feelings of encouragement and empowerment. We not only affirmed his calling to ministry, but we also shared the impact he had on each of our lives and how blessed we felt being in relationship with him. In essence, we spoke words of life into him.

We affirmed one more young man and then the four turned to me.  I had no idea what they would say to a man more than 20 years their senior. I was literally blown away at the words of life they spoke into me – each one of them affirming that I was a personal blessing to them and a blessing to the denomination we are a part of. As they spoke I felt my heart filling with praise that God was using me to make a positive impact in the lives of these four people. I had no idea the impact I was for them. If they hadn’t shared this with me, I never would have known and thus I wouldn’t have been encouraged to keep doing what God has empowered me to do.

Have you had words of life spoken to you? The Bible is full of words of life. You are God’s child (John 1:12); you are Christ’s friend (John 1:12); you belong to God (1 Cor. 6:20); you’ve been anointed and sealed by God (2 Cor. 1:21-22); you are blessed with every spiritual blessing (Eph. 1:3); you are holy and blameless (Eph. 1:4); you are adopted (Eph. 1:5); you are God’s masterpiece (Eph. 2:10); you are included (Eph. 1:13). These words of life are there to encourage, empower and affirm you. This is God’s intent. He wants you to know how much he values you, how much he loves you, how proud he is to call you his child. And until you know this, it’s difficult to be motivated to share God’s love with others.

As ambassadors of Christ, as ministers of reconciliation, as the salt and light of the earth, I believe we are called to speak words of life into each other. I believe we are called to build each other up, to encourage each other, to empower each other, to affirm each other. This affirmation motivates us to do what God asks us to do.

May I suggest you ask God to lead you to someone who needs to be affirmed. Then sit with that person, look him or her in the eyes and speak words of life to them. You will be amazed at what transpires. – Rick

Intern Summit

I'd have to say it was the most inspiring weekend I've ever attended for a Grace Communion International conference.

Seven GCI interns – including our own Jason Frantz – and their supervising pastors – including myself – and others involved in the intern program met in Hendersonville, NC, April 13-16 for the first ever GCI Intern Summit. Knowing how important the intern program is for the future of Grace Communion International, program coordinator Greg Williams wanted to get the team together to discuss how to make the most of the intern program. The program is fairly new and we realized we are still building the foundation for what can be a powerful development for our denomination. 

On the first morning of the summit, we began with worship and communion with three of the interns leading. Starting with communion reminded us to make Jesus the center of all we were going to do in the next two and a half days. After communion, the interns and supervising pastors were split into separate groups and given a list of questions to address: What is working best? What are the greatest challenges? What do we want to do more or less? What new innovations should we consider? When the two groups got back together we found we had the exact same answers. Talk about a Holy Spirit moment. It enabled us to get focused right away.

By Sunday evening we were exhausted, but exhilarated at all we had accomplished together. When we started listing the positives from the summit we ended up with a full page of notes. We talked about the need to keep those positive points in mind. And it reminded us that more than anything else, we had become a unit in communion working to be a blessing for the future of GCI. It wasn’t all work, we ate together, hiked to a waterfall together, worshipped together and spent time together talking, sharing, laughing and building relationship. As always, highlight of the weekend was all about relationships. 

On Monday morning we broke into groups and took turns speaking life into each other. We did this by telling each person in the group how we saw God working in and through them and how thankful we are to be in relationship with them. This act of affirmation was the perfect way to end a successful weekend. Thank you for your prayers for this summit. We are excited about the future of our Intern program and our denomination. Keep praying that God provides more and more people who are willing to respond to the call to ministry. 

True Greatness

Since I was young, I wanted to do something significant. I was knocked down much of my life and I truly wanted to believe that God was going to enable me to do something great that would compensate for the abuse I faced as a child. When I was in college I prayed that God would help me be a strong leader, a person others would look at and say, ‘There goes a man of God. There goes someone I want to be like.”

It was a long time before I realized my motivation was wrong. God is not calling people to be great; he is calling people to be platforms on which he reveals his greatness. As I’ve matured in my faith and in my relationship with God, I realized I don’t want people to look at me and see greatness. Because no matter how many good things I do in life, there are just as many not-so-great things I’ve done. There are things I don’t want to be remembered for. And no matter how many “great” things I do, I can never do anything that really matters – like give someone salvation, forgiveness, adoption into God’s family, end eternal life.

I can’t give things that have eternal value, only God can do that. Every good thing I do is from God in me. Every person I love is based on God’s love in me. Every time I lend a shoulder to cry on, every time I encourage or comfort someone it is because God in me wants to encourage and comfort. In other words, any good in me is from God and only he is truly great.

I no longer have the desire to do something significant that brings me glory, but I do desire to bring glory to God so that others see his goodness, his mercy, his compassion, his nature as a Father and a Mother, his strength and his greatness.

When I bring toiletry items for our mission serving the incarcerated women at Talbert House, it is to bring glory to God. When I bring in loose change for the school children in Haiti, I know God gets the glory. When I travel and encourage others, it’s for God’s glory. And when I write and preach and counsel and pray and love, it’s all so that you and I can be constantly reminded how truly great God is.

I pray I can be the platform upon which God reveals his greatness. Let this be your prayer as well. — Rick

The Last Supper

Jesus' Last Supper

Jesus sat at the table and looked around at his 12 disciples. Here were the men his Father had chosen. They didn’t realize it was their last night together, but he knew. He knew that around that table were people he loved – men he had spent a lot of time teaching and preparing for ministry. And he knew they didn’t have a clue what it was all about – at least not yet.

As he looked around the table I believe he recalled when each one of the men joined him. As he looked at how much each one had grown, his heart must have filled with pride. And as he looked forward to their future ministries, I believe his heart was full of love.

He knew that Peter would be a tremendous pastoral leader. He would be the rock Jesus had told him he would be. Sure, Peter would deny him three times that night, but Jesus looked beyond that denial to what Peter would become.

He looked at James and saw a humble man who would be the leader of the Jerusalem church – headquarters so to speak. Yes, he realized James would desert him later that evening, but he knew James would be a true leader among men and the words he would write would inspire many.

He looked at John and his heart skipped a beat. Here was a man whom Jesus had gotten especially close to. In fact, he was going to ask John to take care of his mother. He knew John was trustworthy. And though he knew John would desert him this evening, he saw a man who was going to teach a lot of people about God’s love.

He looked at Judas and his heart broke at what this man was going to go through in just a few hours. He knew Judas did not understand and that he would regret his decision. He also knew Judas was necessary for prophecy to be fulfilled. He looked at Judas with love, seeing the pain and turmoil in Judas’ eyes.

Jesus knew these men would all deny or desert him in a few hours, but he chose not to dwell on that. Instead, he thought about how these men would serve him and his kingdom.

His heart filled with love, Jesus rose from the table and washed the feet of his friends – always looking forward. He does the same for you and me. He serves us and loves us, never focusing on our sin, but on our life in His service. – Rick 

The Key to Joy

If I were to ask you if Jesus was a happy person, what would you say? I’d have to guess he was almost always happy. After all, he told his disciples he wanted them to have his joy (John 15:11).  He couldn’t say that unless he expressed joy.
    Isn’t it interesting, though, that here was a man who knew all the problems his friends had; he knew their doubts, he knew their fears. He knew they were all going to reject him, hurt him and pretend they didn’t even know them. Their main concern seemed to be which one of them was his favorite. Each one wanted to be “the greatest.” Sounds like a tough group to love. Yet Jesus did just that. He gave them constant and unconditional love.

    “Make yourself at home in my love,” he said, “If you keep my commands, you’ll remain intimately at home in my love.”  Then he told them why this was important – so they could have lives filled with happiness, with joy. “I’ve told you these things for a purpose, that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature.”

    So what was the secret to Jesus’ joy? It’s the same secret to your joy and my joy. It’s stated in the very next few verses. “This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends.” And then He did just that.

    Now Jesus is not asking us to die, but to love others. And loving others means concentrating on what will help them in their personal journey with Jesus. Joy is making a life decision to love others to Jesus. To see past their pain, their feelings of worthlessness, their sins, and to see them as Jesus sees them – as those he came to save.

    I don’t know of many things that bring greater joy than when you see someone all the sudden (or finally) realize that God really does love him or her. Joy enters their eyes and face when the truth of God’s love, acceptance, forgiveness and grace breaks through the walls that have been built up

    The key to real joy is love. We know we’re loved. Let’s make sure others know how loved they are. – Rick